How I Hit Bottom and Why I Want to Save You from that Fate

As a child growing up in a chaotic household, with a great deal of emotional uncertainty, I learned to stuff my feelings and struggled with depression and anxiety. I developed self-hatred and turned to romantic relationships for validation of my worth.

But I always had a drive to feel better and find a healthier way to live. I was inspired by my father who suffered from mental health issues but stayed optimistic and always looked for a way to heal. I desperately wanted PEACE AND SERENITY, but I was looking outside myself for the answers.

Even through my worst experiences, I sought help through a wide range of modalities and did some healing along the way. I tried talk therapy, emotion therapy, self-help books and programs, and more. I found some relief, letting go of some old emotions, and finding a way to overcome depression. But I still struggled with stress, anxiety, and self-doubt.

I really hit ROCK BOTTOM when my codependence led me to a relationship with an alcoholic/addict, and I shocked myself with the depth of my self-destructive behavior.

I found a program that helped tremendously and gave me a path of self-examination that led to releasing my old patterns and embracing new, healthier behaviors in my relationships.

But the worst point was when I finally got OUT of the alcoholic relationship because then I had to face the real problem. ME!

That’s when I dug really deep, dredging up all the old hurts, wounds, and patterns that led me to the destructive behavior. I did the HARD-AS-SHIT work, which is the hardest that anyone can ever do: looking at my worst traits, sharing them, and letting them go.

I gained huge relief and was able to start fresh. I looked at my relationship with myself, my relationships with others, my relationship with the world, even my relationship with the universe (my spiritual connection).

I used every resource I could find and developed my own set of tools to overcome my challenges and embrace a new, healthier way of living.

As a result, I’ve transformed my life from the lowest point ever to new heights. I now have healthy ways to grow, be in relationships, and handle whatever life throws my way, always finding my way back to serenity. In fact, I have become INSANELY SERENE. That doesn’t mean I am always and constantly serene. It means I’m insanely motivated to find serenity, keep it, and share it.

Soon after my inner work, I met my now partner and we are in a happy, healthy relationship. The challenges don’t stop, but I have tools to reduce suffering and bring me to serenity much faster.

Challenges like gaining six stepchildren upon my marriage and having four of them live with us while they were teens and young adults. The tools I’ve developed helped me through the emo phase of the 13 year old, the obsessive video game playing of the 15 year old, the lack of hygiene of the 19 year old, and the terrifying boundaries of the 21 year old. I credit these methods for the good relationships I have with my stepchildren and my ability to maintain my serenity no matter what crises come up with them.

Challenges like giving birth to a daughter at 51, facing many physical, mental, and emotional obstacles. I apply my tools to get through the day-to-day events and crises, and I’m more able to recognize and enjoy the joyful moments. I could not be more proud of the delightful four year old she is today, and our strong, healthy relationship is due to the work I’ve done on inner peace and serenity.

Challenges like getting breast cancer, going through chemotherapy, surgery, and radiation and all the terror of a potentially terminal disease. During that time I suffered clinical depression that brought me close to a mental breakdown. I used my tools to get through that, including the tool of asking for and accepting a wide range of help. I beat cancer and am now a two-year survivor. Today I am healthier and happier than before.

You, too, can be free of codependence and able to summon serenity through any challenge. I’ve been working to shape and share the knowledge I have into tools that you can use. I now share these tools with you and others who want the same transformations I’ve experienced.

My goal is to help you GET THERE FASTER.

I am always learning and adding to the tools and processes for OVERCOMING CODEPENDENCE, learning to LOVE YOURSELF, and finding JOY AND SERENITY in the process.

I believe it’s possible to have “peace at any point.” No matter WHAT is going on, you CAN find that inner peace and serenity to meet the challenges with grace. All you need is the motivation to seek serenity and the tools to help you more quickly find it and keep it.

YOU CAN BE 100% WHOLE, NO LOVER NEEDED!

Are you ready? Let’s get started!